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Posted in Assisted Living, Assisted Living Referral Service at 3:00 pm by admin

Sending a stubborn loved one to an Assisted Living Facility

When it comes time to suggest to a stubborn loved one that they would be better suited being in an assisted living facility with friends their same age and a staff that can assist them with daily living chores it can be hard. Not everyone likes the idea of being forced into a place they themselves did not decide to go to.

Memory disease can be a problem during the move

Usually when it is the children deciding where the parent should go is likely do to the parent having a memory disorder such as dimentia or alzheimer’s. The resident just does not know what is best for them and cannot remember from one day to the next what priorities should be followed for quality of life.

How to convince an elderly loved on to go to an Assisted Living Facility

The best way to convince a stubborn loved one who has a mental disorder from hardening of the arteries, dimentia or alzhiemer’s would be to play along in their fantasy. They likely believe they are in the wrong town or even someone elses house while you take care of them. They unfortunately do not always listen to logic because they are not thinking in reality.

What is considered unethical lieing and what is appropriate when dealing with dementia patients?

When it gets to this point there is a fine line between lieing to your loved on in a cruel unhelpful way and lieing to them along with their fantasy in a way to get them to take care of daily tasks and chores. Some parents will fight and scream before they will go take a shower. They believe they have had one already. A simple coxing into the shower by saying something like, “hey dad, lets go take a look at that brush of your in the bathroom. You like that brush don’t you?” Then progressing to saying something like, “hey you like to look good don’t you before you go out?” He may say, “yes” He might start talking about something. Play along in the moment and role with what he says. Play into his fantasy like you understand and some how steer it to that he needs to take a shower to do whatever it is he wants to do. Even though he may be talking complete nonsense you will have accomplished getting your dad to take a shower.

Strategy to get your dad in the facility

Now getting a loved one to go to an assisted living facility is done in a similar manner. You could be driving in the car and he may start thinking he is in his town. He may object to going into an assisted living facilitity but you could say something like, “Hey dad, let’s go try out this place and play some games for a little bit. Would you like to play dominoes?” If he gets agitated about the idea of living in a retirement community then just talk about the games.

Before you know it he will think he lives in the facility for the time being and you can make your way out after leaving him with the staff. This strategy is only for those who have a bad case of dementia or other memory loss disorders. It’s to protect you and your loved one because if not done tactfully fighting often times occurs. When you come to visit him you can play down any fears he has and bring out the positives about the place he is living. Play games and take walks with him. If he thinks he is back in his home town don’t discourage that type of thinking because he will not be convinced otherwise.

 If you believe the assisted living facility you placed your dad or mom is abusing your loved one then you want to come unannounced and quite often to catch the neglect or abuse. Come when they least expect it and if you do see abuse you need to call the number below. These are volunteer government helpers who will help you to legally do something about this. You may also call them to be referred to a quality assisted living facility based on the crime data they have.

Speak to an information and referral specialist today to learn more about where to place your loved one.

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Senior Citizen Father’s Day Ideas to make it the best day for your father

Posted in Father's Day, Fathers Day Gift Ideas, Senior Citizen Fathers at 12:08 am by admin

Father’s Day

As Father’s Day is soon approaching there are many ways to do or find something special for your senior citizen father. If your father is in an assisted living community or nursing home he’d probably enjoy a night out at his favorite restaurant. If a night out is not an option then bring something to him such as food, a gift, or a card. Give a gift that is meaningful and thought out. If your father is active give him a gift related to his hobbies or interest such as a sports memorabilia, a walking stick with a pattern on it, a video or CD with his favorite music.


If your father is not very active consider giving a gift that enables him to have a more enjoyable and easier life such as a magnifier for reading, a “lifter cushion”, a reacher, comfortable shoes or some clothes that are easy to get in and out of. If your father is living at home you could mow his lawn, clean the gutters, or any task that is hard to get around to doing. Above all father’s day gifts it’s important to tell your father how much he has meant to you. As father’s age they want to know that they lived a good life and were influential in the lives of their children. Tell your senior citizen father this father’s day how much of an influence he has had on you and how much you appreciate him. 


Alzheimer’s disease

Posted in Alzheimer's Disease, Elderly Diseases at 3:51 pm by admin

Alzheimer’s disease is a degenerative disease

Alzheimer’s disease is a degenerative disease of the brain that attacks the nerve cells in all parts of the cortex as well as some surrounding structures. It impairs a person’s ability to govern emotions, coordinate movements, recognize simple mistakes, and remember things well.  Alzheimer’s disease accounts for half to two thirds of all dementia cases. The disease is uncommon to those under 65 years and occurs in less than 5% of those aged 65-72. The risk of getting Alzheimer’s disease increases with age. By 95 years of age as many as 55% of people are affected. Alzheimer’s disease is the fourth leading cause of death in adults. About half of the people in nursing homes in theUSA have Alzheimer’s disease.

Alzheimer’s disease occurs mainly in women partly in the fact that women live longer. Lifestyle may affect a person from getting Alzheimer’s disease. Studies have shown that if a person exercises not only his or her body but mind as well it can prolong Alzheimer’s disease.  For many years there was a theory that overexposure to aluminum causes Alzheimer’s disease because some people with Alzheimer’s disease have deposits of aluminum in their brains. After many years of studies, however, no one has been able to link overexposure of aluminum directly to Alzheimer’s disease. So this may just be a tall tale.